An estimated 2 million engaged couples will be getting married this year, and if you are one of them you’re probably putting off choosing who to invite to your big day! It’s a struggle that can intimidate even the most organized among us - if you invite uncle Joe, does that mean you have to invite his two daughters, and their kids too?! It quickly becomes apparent that your invite list is just one B-list friend away from snowballing into a multi-day, 200+ guest fiasco. So what’s the secret to a perfectly curated guest list?
First off, it’s important to go into your planning with the right attitude. Although you’ll hear advice to the contrary, your wedding IS about you - just because your parents are expecting to invite 20 of their closest friends doesn’t mean that’s what you have to do if you’re an introvert who will be paralyzed with fear at the thought of so many people watching you make the biggest commitment of your life.
So let’s take a minute to clear the clutter from our heads and really focus in on what type of wedding you want to have. Maybe it IS a huge wedding with all the bells & whistles, or maybe you’ve already fallen in love with a venue that can only accommodate 60 guests, or perhaps you fall into my favorite category of people and you’re considering an intimate wedding or elopement with less than 15 guests. And hey, if you ARE planning a tiny wedding, we have special rates for that! Send me an email for more info.
Once you’ve decided on what size wedding you want (remember, this might be different than your loved ones are imagining for your day and THAT’S OK!), start from the top and work your way down. Parents, Grandparents and Siblings are usually a must. After that, move on to other family and friends. If you have a big family, you may decide to invite only aunts and uncles, no cousins. Or maybe you skip the extended family entirely and keep it to your closest friends and immediate family. Here’s the secret: there’s no wrong answers here, and you can’t make everybody happy.